September 5, 2017

Tips To Choose The Right Divorce Attorney From A Financial Advisor

Once your divorce settlement is final, it's too late to go back and renegotiate. Here's how to find the right attorney.
Dawn Doebler, MBA, CPA, CFP®, CDFA®, Senior Wealth Advisor

Deciding to end a marriage is never an easy decision, and once you and your spouse agree to call it quits, it triggers a series of other decisions that can have implications long after your divorce is final.

As a financial advisor and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, I have seen the emotional and financial toll of divorce many times. I also know the difference a really good divorce attorney can make in the financial outcome of someone going through a divorce. Once the Divorce Settlement is finalized, it’s simply too late to go back and renegotiate better terms.

Given the expense and havoc that a divorce can wreak on an family, I generally recommend that couples who are separating in anticipation of divorce first attempt to work out an amicable agreement.  This can be accomplished through a number of means including filing an uncontested divorce, hiring a mediator, or following a collaborative divorce process. These are preferable to litigation since they save both time and money. However, there are situations where you may need to find an attorney to represent you. If that’s the case, then you should engage the best one that you can.

Advocate for yourself

Before I share my suggestions for finding a great divorce attorney, let me say that nothing will replace your involvement and engagement in this process. Too often, women leave key decisions to their attorney, not fully realizing the financial ramifications until years and decades down the road. While your attorney is the expert, you need to be your own advocate by learning as much as you can about how your divorce will affect you, your children and your future finances.

A good way to “know what you don’t know” is to download our Moving On Post-Divorce checklist. This is a very comprehensive list of “To Do” items once your divorce is final. By using this as a starting point, you can ask your attorney what, if any, of these items may relate to you and your situation. It could also spark conversations of things you haven’t considered as you maneuver through this process.

Interview more than one attorney

When selecting a divorce attorney, interview two or three before making your final decision. While your friends or relatives may give you the name of a “good” attorney, you need to make sure the attorney and their firm is right for your particular situation.  Come with a list of questions and weigh and compare their answers carefully before engaging someone. Here are a few key questions to ask to help you make your decision:

Are they compatible with you?

Daily or weekly contact with your divorce attorney is common, especially in the early stages of divorce negotiations. That’s why this question is at the top of my list.  Most attorneys provide an initial consultation that is either complimentary or has a reduced rate.  They typically won’t offer concrete advice, but rather will seek to understand your specific situation. 

In this meeting, be aware of how you feel when talking to the attorney.  At a minimum, ask and then observe the following:

  • ‍Do you feel comfortable sharing the intimate details of your situation with them?
  • Are you satisfied with their answers to your questions?
  • Do they seem to understand your needs, or is a lot of explanation required? 
  • Is their typical client engagement negotiating a settlement or going to court?
  • What is their primary way of communicating with clients (phone, email, meetings) and is that compatible with your preferred mode of communication?

Your comfort level with the relationship is very important because your attorney will be working with you for an extended period of time—often well beyond legally finalizing the divorce. We often see cases where additional litigation or discussions with your attorney are needed to execute the final Divorce Agreement. It may take more time to finalize the separation of assets, especially if you and your spouse own complex investments, like hedge funds, that are more difficult to liquidate, or when a qualified domestic relations order (QDRO) must be drawn up and reviewed by a retirement plan administrator before splitting retirement accounts. These situations can take time and may require multiple conversations between attorneys.

I have unfortunately seen cases where an ex-spouse intentionally delayed separating the assets even after the divorce agreement was final. In one instance, my client could not get access to her money for months and her attorney did not advocate strongly enough for her to eliminate the unnecessary roadblocks. A good attorney will anticipate potential issues and work to avoid unsubstantiated delays.

Do they have relevant experience and are they highly regarded?

Divorce proceedings are heard in courts based on where the divorcing couple lives.  Often, judges in a particular jurisdication will be known for the nature of the opinions they render in certain divorce scenarios. There may be key attorneys who are highly regarded in these courts as well.  It’s helpful to find out who your spouse is selecting to represent them (your opposing counsel).  If that attorney is well-known or well-liked in the jurisdiction, you’ll want to consider hiring an attorney with the same stature to represent you. I suggest you simply ask any attorney you interview if they have experience working with your opposing counsel and how they successfully negotiated for their clients. Their responses may reveal important insights about them and their skills.

Are their fees in line with other firms?

Most attorneys willingly provide a fee schedule in your first meeting.  Be sure you understand it and ask questions if you are unsure about any aspect of their billing.  Get clarity from the attorney on their upfront retainer which often varies based on the expected complexity of the divorce.  You’ll need to pay the attorney the initial retainer up front.  Since it’s often thousands of dollars, it’s a good idea to set aside these funds as soon as possible to ensure you have enough money to engage your attorney of choice.

Will they collaborate with other professionals you work with?

Having a good divorce attorney will likely help in the overall process, but they are not a replacement for other professionals you should be consulting throughout the divorce process.  Your existing CPA will be helpful in understanding your past and present tax situation, and you may want to engage them for future tax projections.  Similarly, if you’re working with a financial advisor, you’ll want to request updates on your portfolio values and seek their advice on revising your financial plan.

Engaging a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) is a good idea to analyze alternative settlement options and forecast the future financial needs for each party.  Your divorce attorney won’t typically provide this type of analysis for you. Lastly, don’t disregard your emotional health. As a divorcee myself, I have experienced the stress and rollercoaster of emotions that come with a divorce. I always advise my clients to talk to a therapist or personal coach. Their counsel and support will help to smooth out the emotional edges so that you can have a clear frame of mind to make important decisions about your personal and financial future.  

If you currently don’t work with any of these professionals, or if you prefer to engage someone new to advocate solely for you, ask your attorney who they recommend.  Some larger law firms have in-house professionals or advisors they can refer you to.  Working with others experienced at dealing with your attorney can improve communication and may reduce overall fees.

What resources will they provide to educate you?

In addition to hiring and relying on professionals with experience in divorce work, I encourage everyone going through a divorce to learn as much as they can about the divorce legal process, understand their own finances, and become aware of the specifics of their investments.  As I mentioned in the beginning, having professionals to assist you is not a replacement for educating and advocating for yourself. 

I have found that the smoothest divorce situations are those where the divorcing parties are actively engaged throughout the process, manage their emotions carefully, and thoughtfully assemble a team that serves their needs. 

Start by downloading our Moving On Post-Divorce Checklist, then review it along with the questions you plan to ask when interviewing potential attorneys. During your interview, ask if they can recommend any books or resources to help you learn the basics about divorce and managing your finances.  I believe the best lawyers will support your desire for education and welcome an empowered and engaged client. 

One final word of encouragment. You will get through this, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Have confidence that you will find the best advocates who will work diligently to provide the best outcome for you—starting with you.

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Shawn: Now you hear all kinds of deals about leasing cars, how can you negotiate a better deal if you want to lease?

Nina: Okay, well many people don't realize that they can actually negotiate the sticker price on a leased car in the same way that you would do that if you're buying a car. And since when you lease -- when you're, you know, your lease payments basically cover the depreciation, the difference between the sales price and the residual value. So it's definitely in your best interest to try to reduce that sales price as much as possible because then you'll pay you know, smaller dollars over the life of the lease. Make sure you pay attention to the down payment at the lease signing. And so here's an example, you might see an ad that says you know, lease payment is only 1.99 a month and that sounds like a great deal for thirty six months. The catch is, is that it might require a $3,600 down payment. So, if you amortize the down payment, then actually that 1.99 special, becomes 2.99. So, you really have to kind of look at total costs. 

And then lastly, dealerships use the term, money or lease factor, when they're calculating your financing costs and a lease factor is not the same as an interest rate. So, you have to make sure the dealer converts that lease factor into a comparable interest rate so you know what your financing charges are. 

Shawn: At the end of the day, does one method wind up being more expensive more often than the other, or can we tell that?

Nina: You know what, it really depends on how long, if you're going to hold the car for a long time, you're better off buying. But if you know, and if you're not, if you just really enjoy driving and you want to have a new car, then go ahead and lease. I mean, there's pros and cons to both, to be honest with you, it's not one size fits all.

Shawn: Alright Nina, great. Happy Thanksgiving to you. Alright, Nina Mitchell is with The Colony Group, for more go to wtop.com and search Her Wealth.

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Dawn Doebler, MBA, CPA, CFP®, CDFA®, Senior Wealth Advisor

Dawn’s experience spans more that 25 years providing wealth management, financial planning and corporate finance solutions for clients. As an MBA, CPA, Certified Financial Planner (CFP®), and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA®), she is uniquely qualified to understand the challenges and financial needs of clients from executives to entrepreneurs, as well as single breadwinner parents. Dawn is a weekly contributor to WTOP radio.